Hey, mama.

I see you. I see your sleep deprivation. I see your anxiety. I see your brain swirling around with all the “what-ifs” and the “I don’t know what I’m doings”. New motherhood is HARD.

And, let’s just face it - it’s even harder if you have a high-needs baby.

I see your baby. Adorable, precious, a blessing, everything you could’ve asked for. But it feels like they just have so. many. needs.

Like sleep difficulties. Feeding difficulties. Reflux. Colic. Oral ties. Hates the crib. Hates the car. Hates the stroller. Seems to just be struggling with everything.

Or they have a highly sensitive temperament. A “Velcro” baby. Only wants to be held by mom. Only wants to be held by mom in one position. Only wants to be held by mom in one position all day and all night.

You feel trapped sometimes. You’re constantly thinking to yourself “everyone else’s babies just seem so much easier. Motherhood doesn’t look this hard for everyone else. What am I doing wrong?”

And then there’s the guilt. “I should be so grateful for my baby.” “This is what I wanted, isn’t it?” “Why am I so frustrated with this tiny human that I love so much?”

And then there’s the isolation. “I can’t tell anyone about how much we’re struggling. They won’t understand. They’ll just judge us. I feel so alone.”

And then there are your values and goals as a parent. “I want to support my baby through everything. I want to help them when they are struggling. I don’t want to leave them to cry. I want them to feel secure and attached. But it is so hard when they just need me so. much.”

You’re not doing anything wrong, mama. And you aren’t alone.

This is the place for you. It’s a place where we recognize that this too shall pass, but it might totally suck right now. It’s a place where two (or more!) things can be true at the same time. This moment can be overwhelming, and it can be a blessing. You can feel happy and scared. You can miss who you were and love who you are becoming.

And as a mom who has been there, I get it. You aren’t alone. And you are the best mama for your baby.